People always try to keep things fresh in an intimate relationship. Learning how to use a vibrator is incredibly enjoyable. Not only that, but it’s also a great way to explore what both of you enjoy most on the bed. Here are some sexy tricks and tips that you can try out tonight.
Put on a Show
Instead of going at it in the dark, keep the lights on watch yourself in the mirror as you surrender to pleasure, or let your guy take a look—the visual will drive him crazy.
Before pressing it to your clitoris, graze it up and down your thighs or along your labia. When you finally do connect it directly to your clitoris, it’ll feel explosive.
Let Him Take the Lead
Have your man gently tie your hands back (or ask him to hold your hands above your head) while he uses it on you. He’ll be able to tell from your moans what pressure and speed bring you to the edge.
Double His Pleasure
Hold the vibrator (or wear a finger vibe) as you run your hand up and down his shaft.
Make it Wet and Wild
Many vibrators are waterproof, so you can have fun in the tub or shower.
Put it on Slow
The highest speed isn’t always the most erotic. Set it on low or medium and let your pleasure build slowly. See how long you can take it until you have to crank it all the way.
Give Him a Massage
Have your man lie on his back, straddle him, then pull out your vibe and trace the outline of his shoulders, torso, and then the sides of his butt and thighs—an ultra-erogenous region for guys.
A drop or two of lube will allow you to explore penetration as well as outer stimulation more easily.
Set it to Music
Vibrators from the OhmiBod line connect to your iPod and pulses to the beat of each song.
Play With it Through Your Panties
The soft, thin fabric of your undies adds extra friction, which can push you into pleasure overdrive.
Trigger Full-Body Pleasure
Run the vibe on the inside of your elbows, the tops of your hips, and just below your naval—areas with lots of nerve endings that intensify sensations.
Use Your Hands
A bullet vibe makes it easy to give yourself internal stimulation while your fingers massage your clitoris.
Give him Buzzworthy Oral
While you’re going down on him, hold the vibrator against your cheek. The extra buzz will push him to the brink.
SOURCES: Ian Kerner, PhD, author of She Comes First, Emily Morse, host of the podcast Sex With Emily
Everyone is quite individual in their likes and dislikes. Don’t be afraid to do something that doesn’t work along the path to finding something that does work. Play and experiment to find ways of using a vibrator that both of you enjoy.