FACT: All women love a man with confidence.
This just isn’t a human trait – nearly every species which participate in any sort of mating ritual, requires the successful mating male to be a confident one.
Consider the following: We think of lions and their giant mane of hair and ferocious roar; we see male peacocks and their beautiful feathers exploding behind them; or giant bull frogs and their audacious grunts at night – all exuding confidence. The males with the scariest roar, most beautiful feathers, and loudest grunts all seem to make out with the ladies, right? Take a lesson.
Simply put, every male, in order to be successful at mating, needs to exhibit a sense of confidence to the female.
Of course, as humans, we don’t grow giant antlers or horns, we don’t have big bright feathers, nor do we have a mating call, but we do have other things that display confidence – and we need to use them or exploit them for us to have sex – and lots of it!
So, how do you boost your confidence with women? How do you make them get wet with excitement when they hear your voice down the hall?
While this isn’t an article that is intended to solve your childhood insecurity issues, there are a few things that you can do that will boost your confidence today – which can lead to successful opportunities to engage and hopefully have sex with the women of your choice!
First, understand what women want: security and stability. If you have these two similar attributes in your personal life, then you have just shot to the top 20% of the males seeking mates. If you aren’t secure about who you are, and what good qualities you have, then how are you going to display any real confidence to approaching females?
The issues of security and confidence require constant attention and devotion to maintain – it usually takes some effort. Beyond that, there are other ways to make you feel good about yourself which will help invite more confidence within you:
- Clean yourself up. There’s nothing like a great haircut, a close, clean shave, and a hot shower. You feel good, fresh, and ready to conquer the world. A well kept man can say a lot to woman you meet. It means you value you who are.
- Know what you are good at. The world requires us to be generalists and to be good at everything. Don’t be. Take the things that interest you and be passionate about those things. If you invest in the things you love, you will display passion for them – and women just love passion. If you have passion about any subject, you become a leader in your field. And that’s what leads us to number three.
- Be passionate. Find the thing that makes you wake up in the morning! Invest in that every day! Your passion about your subject will be an automatic magnet for women. Women just love a man with passion. Why? It means you believe in something. You have dedicated yourself to something worthwhile. Women absolutely love this kind of commitment and leadership.
- Wisdom: Understanding that what separates you from the Brad Pitts of the world is not much. Did you know that humans and chimps are about 99.9% the same? Yes, but it’s that .01 % that matters most, right? Now, what does that mean the difference is between you and Brad Pitt? Not very much! In fact, you probably have more things in common than you realize.
- Be Unique. Many people want to fit in. Many people don’t want to stick out in the crowd. But that’s not going to be you. Dare to be different. Welcome diversity in your life – new blood, new friends, new ways of thinking and doing things. If the life you have been leading hasn’t working for you up to know, don’t you think it’s time to shake things up a bit?
- Your confidence comes from within. Your confidence isn’t determined by what people think of you or whether people accept you or not. After all, not everyone will like you. But then again, do you like everyone you meet? Probably not. So, get over it. You’re a great person and you don’t need someone who has never met or know anything about you, determine whether or not you deserve their attention.
Follow these principles, along with understanding what women want security, stability and you can work on increasing your confidence every day! Soon, women will be drawn to that magnetism – you just won’t know what to do with all of your new found opportunities!
Story 5: Six Secrets of Her Sexual Desire
You’ve heard of the old saying, “what goes up… must come down,” right? Well, with sexual desire, it’s no different.
The fact is that you will have “ebb and flows” to your level of sexual desire, and so will your lover. The trick is to be able to extend the times “you are up,” and limit the times you are “down.”
Here are five secrets of doing just that:
- Do the Dishes: Most researchers suggest that when women feel as though the chores are done – this allows their mind “the space” to think about sex. It also gives them a sense of “well-being” – as if things are being taken care of. And women love being taken care of. Wash the dishes, take out the trash, and clean the toilet. Do these mundane chores without her asking and you just carried a part of load off your lady’s back.
- Date Her: Establish a time and place to go on a date and work your way up to that date throughout the week. We know, you’re both busy, you both got responsibilities and obligations, and most likely if you’re like the rest of Americans, you are very close to burning-out. So whether you have been married for ten years or dating for eight months, set up that old-fashioned time and place and prepare for it. For example, let’s say you set up a date for this Saturday evening. Start texting her on Tuesday and tell her how beautiful she is and that you can’t wait for your time together. Leave her notes – in the bathroom or on her desk telling her that you’re excited to make love to her Saturday night. The sense of anticipation is completely seductive and will generate many rewards for you.
- Exercise together: You could play tennis, go swimming, jogging, or play volleyball. All the research suggests that active women have greater sexual function and experience greater sexual pleasure than women who don’t exercise. Make it a weekly date – and watch her temperature rise in bed!
- Be Touchy-Feely. Whether you live in tiny studio apartment together or a five bedroom ranch house, be close to her – and touch her while you are passing each other. If she is already cares for you, non-sexual touching is critical during the day and increases further sentiments of closeness and intimacy. Touching and stroking in a non-sexual way – even if slightly – heightens the pleasure when sex actually does occur.
- Tell her she is beautiful – every day. When she wakes up, when she is putting her make up on, when she is feeding the kids, doing the laundry, or reading on the sofa. Tell her she is beautiful and that you find her very sexy. Women have lots of issues with their body. Much research finds that body dissatisfaction, decreases a woman’s sex life. A simple word, a gesture, a touch, a note, and telling her that she is beautiful, can really turn her sexuality around in no time!
Sexual desire, especially great sexual desire, always begins beyond the bed sheets. If you want to turn up the heat in bed, then you will have to do some relatively simple, yet essential, things outside the bedroom. Follow these points consistently and no doubt, you will begin turning up the fire!
Story 6: Make Her Explode By Building Up Sexual Anticipation
When a woman has an orgasm, it may feel like a powerful raging river of lust, love, and intimacy, all rolled up in one – rushing throughout her entire body.
But where does that raging orgasmic river start from?
The source of every woman’s orgasm is always found in her mind – always. In fact, most women who find it difficult to have an orgasm usually have some difficulty getting over this first major mental hurdle.
Some women have a hard time giving themselves permission to have an orgasm in the first place. After all, there are still a lot of hang ups in today’s society on a woman’s pressure to be virginal and sexy, motherly and horny – all at the same time! Research shows that these mixed feelings and expectations have very real and detrimental influence on a woman’s sexual psyche.
The good news is that we actually know where an orgasm starts. The bad news is, that most men don’t know.
Yet, if we pay careful attention, we can take simple steps to help her unlock the passion within her!
The first thing you must do is disarm her. Women, by nature, are always on guard or suspicious of men and their motives. Now, as a man, you don’t have to necessarily hide the fact that you want to have sex, it just doesn’t need to take center stage every single moment.
Rather, if you simply make take the emphasis off sex, you will instantly intrigue her interests, because 99% of heterosexual men she has met over the course of her life have and continue to want to get into her pants first.
So, how do you disarm her? Well, the first thing to do is stop looking at her tits. Next, be genuine in sharing your passions and you interests with her. If she knows that there is an authentic man behind that small erection, then she is most likely to lower her defenses.
Second, there are simple ways to flirt with her that is not overly flirtatious. Let her know that you find her attractive – without drooling on her. Here are two examples: Let’s say, she is showing you her pictures on Facebook. Let her know that she is “photogenic.” Say something like, “Everyone looks so happy in this picture, and you look pretty amazing in that dress too!” or “This is a great photo of you and your mom – you have such a great smile!”
Now, once you disarm her and she will begin to allow you to come close to her – physically. Provide a little anticipation with teasing. A woman likes a man that she can’t really have. That’s why many women love married men – they’re safe and they can’t have them – so consequently they are more desirable and valuable.
Set up a date for you guys to go out and then steadily build on the anticipation of the meeting. The anticipation creates tension, which will be released during orgasm.
If her guard is down with you, she has basically given you the keys to her sexuality and is waiting for you to do what you do best – satisfy her deepest desires. But you can’t just open the door to her house and run upstairs to her bed. She’ll snatch those key right back from you in a second! Rather, you need to explore her environment, appreciate the world she has created and is sharing with you.
Stroke her sense of being a woman – her hair, her laugh, her smell – do without too much sexual tension – that will soon come.
Call her during the week, share an interesting personal story, but before you tell her the ending – the climax – cut her off, and tell her that you got to run into a meeting and that you will finish up where you left off when you see her. Give her something to think about and that will make her want to seeing you again soon.
If you practice building anticipation, you will no doubt cause her to want you more as the hours and days pass – until you finally see each other. Remember the orgasmic rushing river you want her to have with you, always starts from a little spring deep within her mind. Impact her mind, and you will impact her orgasms!
End of Part 2. Coming soon, Part 3!